It's always a traumatic time when you lose someone close to you. All sorts of different, intense feelings are created. Sadness, anger, pain, disbelief, numbness and guilt are just a few and can all lead to anxiety or depression. The ways in which people grieve differ also, and it's important to know there's no right or wrong way about it. Some people don't grieve for months and this is not wrong it is just your way of dealing with such a distressing chapter of your life.

Our emotions are a very large part of who we are, and therefore very powerful. Trying to deny your feelings is not going to change the fact that you feel that way, so try to remember you are allowed to feel this way because it's a natural and healthy expression that will enable you to return to a state of normality.

Feeling guilty because you felt nothing at first can also be a huge burden, but don't worry there are plenty of people who feel exactly the same. You should also try not to keep things bottled up-let it out because it will lift off that huge weight you are carrying. Surround yourself with people that you know, love and trust because they are sharing your pain and will be very supportive and easy to talk to.

Alternatively, if you're finding it difficult talking to your family and friends, there are other people you can turn to instead. It might seem daunting talking to someone you don't know about someone who meant so much to you, but there are trained counsellors who know what to expect. Cruse Bereavement Care is a charity, offering free, confidential advice and counselling. On the other hand, The Samaritans are also a healthy option, and can be contacted on 08457 90 90 90.

You're not alone
Bereavement can also put a tremendous strain on your other relationships and you may have difficulty coping with the way other members of the family are dealing with it. Just remember that they're dealing with it their way just like you're dealing with it your way. So, take as long as you need time is a great healer.