Do you think your guy is being unfaithful? Being unfaithful requires a lot of energy and attention to detail.

The lying alone is an exhausting business that requires an excellent memory. The pressure of leading a double life inevitably leads to loose ends, little clues that pile up into evidence of odd behavior.

If you suspect your man is being unfaithful, here are a few things to look out for. Taken individually each could be perfectly innocent; cumulatively they are some of the danger signs...

 

 

1. Improved personal habits If his personal hygiene/grooming improves overnight, chances are it is not you he is trying to impress but younger or just new woman.

2. Out with the lads in his best gear?
Out with the lads, to the gym, or the office on a Saturday, he used to throw on whatever clothes were nearby. Now he starts wearing a particular outfit or item of clothing at particular times. It often turns out to be a present from his mistress or one of her favorites.

3. Can’t remember where he’s been?
He is always out with 'the boys', 'people from work' or 'the usual crowd.

4. Secret mobile and email calls
Why is he always closing down windows on his PC whenever you enter the room? Does his mobile suddenly require a PIN, his in-box and out-box are oddly always "empty", he gets his bills de-itemised or suddenly needs a new phone "for work"?

5. He is not really with you
His mind seems to be elsewhere and his body language and/or behaviour tell you he'd like the rest of him to be with it. He rarely wants to go out and do things with you, but he is bored and restless at home.

6. He is off sex and hugs
When you reach for his hand he withdraws it at the first opportunity. He doesn't want to talk, let alone touch, and it seems ages since you had a decent conversation about anything.

7. He touches you in a new way
It is upsetting when your partner suddenly touches you in a different way or practices a new sexual technique. Ask yourself where he learnt to do it.

8.On the defensive?
If you remark that he has been working late a lot, he launches into a lengthy diatribe on how hard he works and how little you appreciate it. If you ask where he went out, he wants to know why you are so possessive / paranoid / insecure.