You can be a raving sex kitten if you are tiny and a terror between the sheets even you haven’t got a film star figure. Being great in bed is all about confidence and we have some great tips to improve both your image and performance.

We would all like to change at least one thing about our bodies, but we can't always do that and who says life should be put on hold in the meantime? No matter what our shape and size, we all deserve a sizzling, satisfying sex life! Like most things in life, sexiness levels have a lot to do with your attitude. Start improving yours tonight with these confidence tips!

Find the perfect posistion

The Kama Sutra has more positions than you can shake a stick at so if you really want to look good in bed, be clever. Worried about your stomach? Assume the missionary position - the flesh on your stomach will flatten out, hiding your potbelly. The missionary doesn't have to be boring - wrap your legs around his back to draw him closer to you. If it's small breasts you're worried about, get on top - they'll automatically look bigger from where he's lying.

Sexy Thoughts

Has your partner ever told you are a wonderful kisser? Maybe you know you're talented with your hands or perhaps it's something subtler - the way you wear high heels, or a particular expression you make that makes your partner know you want him. Now focus on what makes you feel good about yourself and what you know he likes. Men are always turned on far more by a woman uninhibited about her sexuality than one who's afraid of showing her body. If you think you're sexy, you'll feel sexier and be sexier fact!

lights, Camera, action

Pretend you are directing a film and set a sultry mood first in your head and then with props. Experiment with the wonders of discreet lighting by placing aromatherapy candles around your bedroom. They're much more flattering and atmospheric than harsh overhead lights everything looks better by candlelight. Don't forget to have romantic music playing in the background.

Enjoy yourself

By this I don't mean a night in with your Rampant Rabbit! The sexiest people are happy with themselves, enjoy sex and know what they want no matter what their shape. A partner who savours the experience and loves every second of it is far more of a turn-on than someone who is supermodel- stunning but obsessing over how they look in particular positions.

If you know what you enjoy, accept you enjoy it and you'll boost your sex life forever.

Play it again Sam

Repeat over and over in your mind, a consciously chosen statement - even out loud or on paper to reverse a negative belief. Changing our thinking through affirmations can improve not only the way we feel about ourselves but also the way we move through the world. If you keep saying to yourself that you are a passionate and sexual woman, or that you are beautiful and sexy, or that you are on fire with passion, you will come to believe it. Why not try saying, "I am one red-hot sexy mama!"

If none of the above feels right, make up your own affirmation.

Make your own magic

Try your own rituals before you go out to play and you will smoulder with sex appeal!

• Sip a glass of champagne with three drops of damiana essence added to it.
• After your shower, dab three drops of pheremone-emitting tuberose perfume on either side of each ankle and massage in. This is a very erotic zone. Tuberose is found in Fragile by Jean Paul Gaultier and Titania Hardie's Love Pulse Point from Boots.
• You are now a smouldering sex kitten. Now get out that door!

Find yourself a real gentleman

If your current partner puts you down and says negative things about your body show him the door and find yourself a real gentleman. If a man really cares for you then he'll want you just the way you are.

Now that you're armed with the powerful secrets for feeling confident at any shape, focus on how good it feels being oh-so-sexy and glow, baby, glow!