Casual Sex v Couples Sex

Why do couples think single people are having rampant sex with different partners every night of the week and doing things to each other couples only dream of? And why do single people think couples are having loving romantic sex every night?

She is not looking for love

Programmes like Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City are certainly helping women of today be more promiscuous han ever before with less of the stigma attached. Most women today can separate the "L" word from sex. Anyway who cares who judges you? You're single aren't you? Who are you hurting?

Is he looking for love?

There is no doubt men are better at separating the "L" word from sex than women are. Furthermore most people believe that men would prefer to lay everything in sight than settle down. Let's face it a man is a stag, and a woman a whore if they sleep around. Blame society for that. However, just like women, men get older and wiser (yes, they really do) and eventually want to settle down. Allegedly men sleep with more partners than women. That said, I think you should divide what men say by three and times what women say by the same amount and you will probably be nearer the truth. It's also funny, try this one
out for yourself. Ask any woman how many partners she has had and the majority will say either six or nine.

Singles sex

The up side: It's all about ego and lust with any new partner. There is something strangely naughty about sleeping with a new partner, especially if it is very soon after meeting. For men the emotional disregard is easy. For women it means you can experiment with your wilder side, after all you probably won't see him again. Who cares if he thinks you're a trollop?
You had your fun as well as him.

The down side: this applies to women more than men. As women can't detach as easily as most men. Sometimes you can feel cheap and lewd. On the other hand you might want or expect more and they donÕt. If you go to bed with a stunner and wake up with a minger, that's not good. Finally it's selfish on both parts and generally the sex is not that good, as you don't know what each other likes.

Couples Sex

The up side: there is no doubt sex with someone you love is far better than a one night stand. Whilst I agree there is not the naughty side of it, there is definitely more substance to it. I used to think that smug couples were arrogant. Now I think if they get on well and have a great sex life that keeps getting better, good luck to them. Because underneath it all, we all want that!
The down side: if the relationship is ok but the sex is awful that must be really bad. How do you get out? (I smell an affair) whilst if you're single you just walk away. Communication is the answer. After all you can't lose what you don't have. Alternatively try sex counselling, as much as it might feel like you're freaks (you're not). If your relationship is worth it, do it. If it isn't, why bother? Move on - you only have one life.

The top and bottom of it

The up side: if youÕre in a loving relationship your orgasm will be better for both parties. This is because you know each others likes and dislikes. You recognise breathing patterns, so you know when to accelerate or decelerate. Unlike single sex youÕre more bothered about pleasuring your partner than yourself. If you're both of the same mind then fireworks will be going on in your house. And probably best of all is when you're in the throws of passion, you can stop, look each other in the eyes and say with real feeling, "God knows, I love you" and what comes better than that?

The down side

Sex can become boring. I feel like being naughty and having a quick fling. We always have it in the same position. He/she does things we don't like. Why can't we have the light on now and again? It's true, familiarity can breed contempt or indeed laziness. Read the article in this edition on Female Sexual Mistakes, for more advice. It always comes back to the same thing - communication. Talk to each other, after all hopefully you both want the same outcome.