Hen Parties

Arranging a hen party can be a daunting task as it is difficult to come up with an original and tasteful idea that will suit most budgets. The main thing to remember is that the hen party is an opportunity to spend time with the bride, have a laugh, relax and spoil her. Forward planning is essential so that everything runs smoothly.

Traditionally it is the chief bridesmaid who organises the hen party along with close friends and bridesmaids. A list of friend’s contact details and ideas of what the bride would like should be provided. In days gone by it was traditional for the chief bridesmaid to host a dinner party at her house, followed by a move to somewhere more lively for the rest of the night. However, it is more popular these days for the hen party to be held over a weekend where the hens will travel to another city to have a lavish celebration. This is much more costly and it depends entirely on what the bride wants and what her friends can afford. Whatever happens it is a huge opportunity for a girls-only holiday and is a perfect bonding session for certain members of the wedding party before the big day. The bride should act as a bridge in this eventuality so that everyone feels comfortable.

Holding the hen party four to six weeks before the wedding is more usual these days and it is a good idea for the hen and stag parties to take place at the same time in order to keep both the bride and groom from worrying about what fate has befallen their other half. It is usual for only wedding guests to be invited to these parties, but if the bride or groom wishes to invite a family member that is their choice. It is common for mothers who come along to make a quick exit once the more civilized part of the evening has finished. If bride’s wish to invite close male friends then that is her prerogative, but normally it is not the done thing.

It is essential to budget carefully for the hen party and costs should be shared among all of the guests including the bride. An expensive weekend away could mean that some friends are unable to attend. Bear in mind travel, accommodation, food, entertainment, outfits, games and any presents. It is a good idea to email friends with a breakdown of costs and they should then confirm their attendance and their contribution. This should be sent early on so guests have a chance to reply as well as being aware of what is expected of them.

It isn’t usual for the bride to receive presents at the hen party, but it is a nice gesture and could be something all the friends have contributed to or could be something of personal relevance from each guest.